Wednesday, October 11, 2017

10/11/2017

Evening Coolness
It has been a while since I posted on my blog. I haven't been making much art lately. Probably about one painting a week rather than the daily paintings I had been doing for a while. That will have to be OK since I have so many other things going on right now.

I have been trying to downsize a little each day for the move next summer. Luckily I live in a building with 25 other units and so when I bring my downsized stuff down to the trashroom, it disappears almost immediately! People love free stuff! Especially when they are drawers, shelving and bins! So nothing is going to the landfill and that is always a good thing.

The other thing that is taking up so much time and energy is the college thing or lack thereof. We still don't know what my grandson will do post college and post move. If I weren't moving it wouldn't be such a big deal but I am and so time is of the essence for him. He needs to decide what he is going to do. I can't just leave him on the curb. It is stressful because I want him to be some place where he can thrive. But he still takes no interest in his future and I can't force him. Although I continue to try and I am becoming a real nag. I just want some answers. Instead I am trying to figure it out for him which I know is a bad idea. And everyone tells me so as well. But what am I to do?

I am looking at technical schools and so far have found a couple. One is called Pennsylvania College of Technology and the other is Vermont Technical College. I think those might be good places to start since he says he is interested in construction. (Does he even know what that means since he has never done it).....Argh.

I also thought of a gap year doing something like Americorps.

I think it is very different when you are the grandparent. You tend to feel more protective of them. Grandparent love is different than parent love and somewhat more smothering.

Anyway, I keep trying. I would really like to see him in a dorm situation somewhere with other young people his own age doing something to secure his future, whatever that may be.

I will try and go back to my regular posting because I always get good advice from my readers and this is one of those times I could use some. If you have any other ideas I would love to hear them.

4 comments:

Carol- Beads and Birds said...

I have a grandson just like yours and his mother enables him. He graduated high school and could have received a scholarship to Purdue in engineering. But he became involved in a Methodist Church and is the Youth Group Director, which is a part time job. My daughter is letting him float along, when he could easily get a job where she works and they could drive together. I don't ask questions. We don't have the kind of relationship that would welcome them. I have no answers for you. Except at some point you have to let go and live the life you want that will make you happy. I know, that's easy for ME to say. I hope you get the situation resolved.
xx, Carol

Caterina Giglio said...

a gap year might just be the thing he needs, also I would suggest an apprenticeship .. The creators of This Old House are beginning apprenticeships and perhaps he can apply to that and see if he likes it. There are a lack of carpenters and trades people and they are based, I think in Mass. Sending best wishes your way.. x

Maureen Neville said...

Yes, college or a tech school might be the best thing. However, a gap year could possibly serve him well. He sounds like he's not ready. I don't think you're enabling him by not pushing him too hard. That could possibly be the worst thing for him. That guy has been through a lot. I think you're doing the best you can for him. Keep trying, Roberta. There's still time. I can understand you probably don't want him coming to AZ. The apprenticeship idea sounds great as long as he gets a stipend and can afford a place to live. Americorps also. Funny how you said you're not sure he even knows what contruction is.Yep he probably doesn't grasp the whole concept of what it entails. VERY hard work.

Maureen Neville said...

Your work is stunning as alwasy!